VERBAL
Talk first.
A calm reminder before a card is needed.
Simple visual communication
Less repeating.
More understanding.
Ref Marty helps families communicate expectations with simple referee-inspired cards children can understand at a glance.
One look. Everybody knows the call.
A simple progression built for real moments.
Start with communication. Use a card when a visual cue can say it more clearly.
GREEN
Great call.
Celebrate good choices and keep the momentum going.
YELLOW
Think again.
A clear cue to stop, think, and make a better choice.
BLUE
Reset.
Pause, calm down, and come back ready to try again.
RED
Stronger call.
For serious moments or repeated warnings when more is needed.
The Blue Card
Sometimes the best call is a reset.
Not every situation needs another warning. Not every situation needs a Red Card. Blue creates space to pause, calm down, and try again.
Read the Blue Card story
Built around your family
Helpful in the moment. Out of the way after.
Adjustable timers
Choose the amount of time that makes sense between calls.
Multiple children
Keep each child’s cards and daily flow separate.
A fresh start
Daily card status resets so every day can begin clean.
Quick by design
Open it, make the call, and get back to your family.
You make the rules
Parenting has enough instructions already.
Ref Marty isn’t here to tell you how to raise your child. You decide what each card means for your family. Ref Marty simply makes the call clear.
“The best tools help you communicate, then get out of the way.”
The Playbook
Open the Playbook →Ideas from the real world.
Playbook
The Blue Card: The Feature We Didn’t Know We Needed
Sometimes the Best Ideas Come From Real Life When we first built Ref Marty, the system was simple. A verbal warning. Green. Yellow. Red.…
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Playbook
Putting Ref Marty on the Field
Our First Beta Test Building an app is one thing. Finding out whether it actually works is something completely different. Once the first version…
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Playbook
Why We Built Ref Marty
Parenting is full of moments where you find yourself repeating the same thing over and over again. “Please clean up your toys.” “It’s time…
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Ready to make the call?
Clear expectations can start with one card.